Actually *trying* to lose weight.
*Saying* you're going to lose weight doesn't actually help. It requires dedication, education and tenacity. The methods are simple, but rarely easy. But that's how I lost 75lbs.
The decision to move to japan. Been here for 12 years now. Im a black guy who grew up in the Detroit ghetto. But now i make the euivalent of 6 digits a year in USD
Moving across the country for no reason other than I was sick of where I was - both in physical location and in life. I met great new people as an adult, which I think is important. My friends are my friends because I chose them, not because I met them in 5th grade (not that some of those friends aren't still amazing). And I never would have met my spouse otherwise. Life is good because I made it that way.
Deciding to go ahead and try to get pregnant one more time. I had 3 losses and doctors told me I wouldn't have kids. But I said to my husband "Ok, let's do this one more time. If we lose 4, we're done".
Nope, had a beautiful girl.
Joining the military. I had zero options to get ahead. Joining the military got me out of a bad situation.
The combined decision to remove both toxic people and toxic substances from my life.
Have a long way to go, but in general never been genuinely happier.
Exercise. I went from eating whole little caesers pizzas by myself and drinking gallons of sweet tea every week,doing nothing but sitting in a chair in my room alone for months on end.
I went to a friends newyears party and saw that I was too winded to go up his stairs and too weak to help him carry groceries. I suddenly had this feeling that I needed to change,and starting 1/1/2016 I just started training 6 days a week,counting calories,optimising my macronutrient intake and heavily studying scientific literature on training/nutrition.
My body and mind have never felt better,my confidence and sense of self worth are at their peak almost every day,my life has purpose now and it makes me feel incredible to perform these feats of strength I thought only professional athletes or genetically gifted individuals could attain.
I can never speak highly enough of training your body and mind. It changes everything for the better.
Not killing myself. I'm not dead. Still not convinced it changed my life for the better.
When my grandmother died, her Hospice nurse said to me "You are her legacy". Those words, spoken minutes after her death, profoundly impacted me. I had a dead end job that made me miserable, and I felt like I contributed nothing to society. I wanted to make my grandmother proud. So I decided to become a nurse. Started the prerequisites two months later, graduated first with my associates, then got my bachelor's, in nursing. I love being a nurse, and that one decision has completely changed my life.
"Get in the van!"
I do a bit of gig photography, and turned up to a charity gig a couple of years back, being run by a guy I knew. Not massively, but got on with him well enough.
When I arrived, he was at the door. "So, captf, what are you up to tomorrow?"
"Um, recovering from tonight?" Since, I'd planned to get a bit wasted after the bands were finished.
"Nope! You're coming to the London show, since our regular photographer has bailed on us!"
"I can't afford that!" I reply.
He looks at me, and goes "No, I think you're not getting this. We have a room booked for you, transport is set up, and you're on the rider. This won't cost you anything."
"But I have no clean underwear!" Which was true. I was onto my last pair of clean boxers...
"Just... get in the van!"
I was feeling very anxious about it, and couldn't sleep that night because of it. But, in the end I went.
And because of it, I've become a bit of an in demand photographer in the small music scene I'm part of, I've met a whole host of great people, and I met my now girlfriend.
[Edit: Also, now really good friends with the guy too, obviously]
Admittedly, it's not a massive life changer, but it definitely had a good impact.
Marriage (wrong person)
Divorce (recent & trying to figure out my next EVERYTHING)
moving to another country on my own. I realized how grateful should I be to my parents. I believe that not until you leave home do you realize how hard your parents work for you.
Repeating a year at school.
I'd missed a lot due to illness and had the option of carrying on and getting crap grades or repeat the year.
During the meeting with teaching staff I agreed to redo the year and as an after thought asked if I could do art instead of some other subject.
The result of that decision let me to study it at University, meet my future wife, we had kids and I have a career I love. Also made a lot of other great friends along the way I'd never have met otherwise.
I just quit my full time over night job. Best thing I ever did. I can finally sleep when its night out!!
Mustering up the courage to ask her out.
We dated for a few years and I'm sad to say that it's over but those were some great years that shaped me to be the person that I am today.
We miss the chances that we're too scared to take, sometimes we just need to go for it.
Going to therapy. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship for years until he decided to own up to it and try to be a better person. But, there was already a lot of damage done to my self-esteem and trust in him. I was also really depressed and anxious during this time because he had also admitted to cheating on me throughout the relationship. It all became too much for me, so I decided to try therapy, which I had tried before but the two I had gone to were total assholes. I was reluctant to try again, but ultimately it was the best decision I ever made. I've been going for two years now and I've regained a lot of confidence in myself and I've been able to manage my depression and anxiety. I finally feel like things are going well, and I don't think they would be if I hadn't restarted therapy.
Ending my relationship of 4 years when he proposed to me at 21. Best thing I ever did, I had no one he made me so isolated that in the end he was my only "friend" I was insecure and had no confidence. I now 2 years later have the best group of friends, i'm confident and out going and will never let a boy isolate me from anyone ever again.
Changing my diet to a low-carb to no-carb diet.
Everything improved, I lost a lot of weight, I'm thinking more clearly, my joints stopped aching, my stomach doesn't hurt anymore, I sleep like a stone.