It is more far important to have compatible goals than it is to have similar interests.
Read this on reddit once and it stuck with me.
You'll know her better than anybody has. You could rip her to shreds with one sentence, and ruin her whole month. In an argument, don't say those things and go for the kill. Let it go.
Continue to flirt with each other
When I asked my great grandfather who has been married for 71 years he said 3 things
Don't work from home
Get a damn comfortable couch
Something will inevitably piss you off but take a deep breath before reacting to it. Some things are just no big deal.
Marriage is like a house. If something in the house doesn't work, you don't buy a new house; you invest time to fix your current one.
Be a team, and always tell them you love them.
It's essential not to take each other for granted.
Each day, no matter how subtle or understated the gesture, let your spouse know that they're special.
Sometimes the smallest acts of kindness, generosity and thoughtfulness mean the most and enhance the relationship, long-term.
Pick the worst day-to-day chore and make it yours. Every time you do a chore, try to remember that you're preventing your spouse from having to do that chore, and it'll keep you motivated(and happy) to do it. Everything you do at home can be in some way FOR them.
Love is about giving.
Also, never EVER count scores.
You're not always right. Admit when you're not.
Only get married if you want to be a married person.
Always be honest, even if it seems like a bad idea.
Be willing to work hard at making the marriage successful.
Accept that your partner has some crazy shit, and be 100% sure you are ok with their kind of crazy shit.
Communication. If something bothers you, let them know, in a calm and reasonable way.
Never stop dating them, even if you are struggling financially there are ways to enjoy time together, even if it's just a walk someplace nice, or a candlelit dinner at home.
It's the small things that count. Especially if you see your s/o having a stressful time, take up some of the slack. Do some of the things they would normally do, without them asking, and without expecting anything in return.
If you see your s/o excited about something, they like something in a shop etc., go back later (as long as it is affordable to you) and buy it, and surprise her/him.
When arguing, it's "us vs. the problem" instead of "me vs. you".
It's not about who wins the argument, it's about understating your partner, and their point of view.
Don't take relationship advice from reddit.
Oh another good one is "when you... I feel...." not "you MAKE me feel...."
Own your damned reactions.
Most arguments will be irrelevant in a week. Almost all in a year. In other words, quit sweating the small stuff, you will be happier.
Not all the time of course, but if you both have different ideas of fun then find someone else who enjoys it and go with them!! My husband hunts and I am not a winter camper so I don't go with him when he does that. I love shopping and will go on weekend trips to the us to shop. I trust him. He trusts me. We don't need to be attached at the hip and we don't need to force each other to do something we don't like. We are the most important people to each other but we aren't completely dependant on each other to enjoy life.
That said we did just get back from Mexico together with no kids or people we knew and that was pretty spectacular too!!
Source married 22 years / together 25
M'aiq believes the children are our future. But he doesn't want them ruining all of our fun.