Her family history of breast cancer. Worries me.
The unnerving feeling that in the beginning, I was the second choice
The fact that I know too much about it involving his ex
Not SO, but ex. The amount of times she has attempted/considered suicide scares the shit out of me every time.
Years ago, when she was about 19, two guys were fighting over her. They had an actual fist-fight and she chose to date the winner.
This was almost a decade ago and she is a much more mature person so I know she wouldn't make the same choice now....but the idea of being beaten up in a bar fight or something then her going off with my attacker always lingers in my mind....no matter how silly it is.
Sometimes the fact that he has two kids with his ex wife, having the shared experience with her while she was giving birth and also having already being married to her. Those will all be firsts for me but he says it doesn't make it any less special because this time it's with the right woman.
Maybe "bother" isn't the right word, but he is way more experienced sexually than I am.
We struggle having sex, and I feel bad because I know he has had pretty successful sexual relationships in the past.
He was physically bullied a LOT in his younger years, to the point of being hospitalized. It doesn’t bother me in that it affects my opinion of him, but what bothers me is that no one put a stop to it
My exgirlfriend forced her little brother to finger her when she was like 9.
He dated someone for 6 years, she cheated on him for drugs and he loved her a lot. When we first started talking he would cry about her over the phone. He says he doesn't love her anymore but him crying on the phone over her at the beginning kinda makes me insecure. Or how they still message each other and she tries to come onto him. He ignores her but she keeps doing stuff to press. And he blows me off and gets defensive and defends her or blows up at me when I get jealous
How often he brings up going to New York to visit his(then) girlfriend and how she broke his heart.
His ex was an emotionally abusive, exploitative, and manipulative person. She did a lot of damage to him, and *he thought he loved her.* The mix of disgust at hurting him and the petty envy eat at me. This soul-sucking serial manipulator stole his first kiss, a piece of his heart, and it affects our relationship now.
Then his other ex had absolutely no interest in him, and figured saying yes would make him go away. She strung him along for months, him trying everything to make her love him back. It sickened me to watch it happen.
My ex husband had a horrible childhood and it involved sexual abuse among the siblings. I always felt so horribly sad about it all.
His family has a history of cancer. But my family has a history of depression and heart problems.
He used to hang out with some really awful rich kids. He has told me that several of them visited sex workers sometimes (he says he didn't and I believe him), but I still can't help but wonder what other awful shit they got up to. The little I have seen of how those guys acted in their early 20's leaves a really bad taste in my mouth.
His mother is very demanding and proud. When he says no, she reluctantly accepts the answer. He just rarely ever says no...