I used to have this problem. What fixed it for me was breaking everything down into a series of smaller and smaller steps until I got to something I could do right now. Then I'd just work my way through the steps.
Comfort seemed to be my vice. I made myself feel uncomfortable about my current situation so I vowed to not stop until I fixed it.
Now, I'm perpetually uncomfortable. Problem solved.
Something that helped me was pretending every action was benefiting a loved one or friend. In a lot of cases it can actually end up being true if the action is a form of self betterment. In a lot of cases something good happening to you can benefit people close to you.
Yes yes yes. I feel like I have all this potential that I fucking waste sometimes. Stopping really depends on what it is you're doing that isn't following your ambition.
You have to constantly ask yourself *is what I'm doing going to help me accomplish what I want to do?* if the answer is no, then stop doing it.
I'm a music major and aspiring professional jazz musician. I've spent the last two years working my ass off and about a month ago I completely cut out leisure activities like video games (I only played 2-3 hours a week before that) and I feel great. Now when I have some extra free time I use it to listen to music as actively as I can.
My kick started when a professor of mine told me "when you die, the person that you are will meet the person that you could have been." That shit changed my life.
I don't know you but if i had to bet, i would say your not ambitious at all -you just want the results of someone with ambition. Below is the advice i would give myself, so don't take it personal.
The truth is that you reap what you sow and there arn't many shortcuts in life unfortunately. So how do you develop ambition? You have to first start with a vision of your ideal life...really think about this because you have to have a destination to get anywhere. Who do you WISH you were? What will do you? What habits do you want to have? How will you act in common situations? How will you treat others? How will other people treat you? Write that shit down and put it in a place where you can see it every day. The beauty of it is it is independent of how you were yesterday, or even today. **you are not your past**. You don't have to be the worthless piece of shit you think you are who only eats pizza and drinks only soda. You do these things because that is what is easy and gets instant gratification but in the back of your head you know its destructive, but its ok because "I'll go to the gym tomorrow". Days turn in to months, months turn into years QUICK. Imagine how shitty you're life would be if you were still fucking up in 15 years? Use fear as a motivational to develop ambition.
Once you have a vision and the motivation then you can start the process. Depending on what you're goals are the action steps can vary greatly, but in general the goal will need to be broken up into chunks. Say for example, your goal as to be nicer to people..some of the things you can write down are to "smile at everyone i make eye contact with today" or make a note to remember peoples names, and greet them with it. Give someone a genuine complement when the opportunity presents itself. One important aspect of this process is that there should be no ambiguity. "eat right" has no meaning if you don't know how to measure it (and its a good idea too btw). However it may be tempting to keep things vague as it is a form of procrastination and a way to get out of doing what you know your really should be doing- don't let this happen.
You have to learn to trust that you are able to accomplish the things you set out to. If subconsciously you don't think these things will never happen you will most likely give up because whats the point right? It is because of this reason its best to have a series of 'wins' under your belt so you can tell yourself, truthfully!, that you CAN reach your goals. Make a to do list of 3-5 small things that you WILL get done that day, no matter what, and do them. It sounds silly but this actually works. Make this a daily habit. After that, start incorporating some of the activities you have previously identified into your to-do list/schedule.
There is a certain level of fake it till you make it when it comes to personality or behavior modification. You will have to get out of your comfort zone to progress and its easier said than done for sure. If you are a recluse that has never asked a girl out but realize that you have to overcome your fear of rejection, maybe what is required is that you approach girls and start a conversation. Yes, at first you will probably stutter at first. Yes, you will probably get embarrassed and they will look at you weird and it may be almost unbearable. But do that enough and i can assure you that all that will go away, but going through it is first required. Learn how to be comfortable being uncomfortable and you can have almost anything you want in life. Good luck.
Why does this hit so close to home, as an artist this is my biggest issue
Scientifically one has to start with a very small habit change. Like walking for a obese person.
The person walks say 15-30 minutes listening to music.
After a few days Person loses a few pounds because the heavier you are the more calories you body burns doing whatever.
Bam the reward is instant and the person excited to lose weight that quickly tries to walk a little right further/linger each time.
He or she is losing weight quickly and feeling better and stronger. they now have to the drive that they can change their life. So they do little things like drinking cold water and eating low calorie healthy food boosts the weight loss even further.
Note if he or she tried to do do intense exercise/eating healthy/ drinking cold water constantly it would have been overwhelming to change so much and would have given up.
Person now sees the goal of having average bodyweight easily possible because of how good they feel and results keep happening. Said person takes up running because they can finally do so.
maybe a year or 2 later said person has quit smoking and started lifting weights to shape their body.
it’s a “snowball” effect. You have to start with a little change thats gradual when it starts giving results a person feels it’s much much easier to change a few more habits leading to compete
success of their original goal.
So key point to attain anything you must start out small AND SHORT.and gradually add more changes over time.
See, you gotta be one or the other. Ambition is fine, if you wanna work. And if you don't wanna work, there are ways to comfortably coast.
But you can't be lazy and ambitious. They're pretty much opposites. What you want is to have all the good stuff that comes from being ambitious and hardworking...Without being ambitious and hardworking.
Sounds nice. Doesn't really work that way for most people, unless you got real lucky with your parents.
Life is a marathon, not a sprint. A little bit of effort everyday adds up to big results.
Don't get mad at yourself for slipping. You should be your own best friend.
One day your lazyness will screw you over so bad that you'll be force to go through something you never knew would have to endure
Excellence not perfection. Done with flaws is better then not done.
A lot of procrastinating is really fear and anxiety about not being perfect.
If you're talking about work life then you need to get good at small time politics. I'm a pretty lazy guy but I went from making $10/hr to a 65k/yr salary in 4 years from making the right friends and pulling the right strings when the opportunity presented itself. You don't have to work hard to be successful, you just have to know how to play your cards.