Being OK with what you have. Be it health, money, friends, personal appearance etc you need to be comfortable with it. If you constantly strive for something more you'll never be happy....not to be confused with your drive either. Be driven. Just don't be driven by possessions or the pursuit of wealth.
Being in charge of your own life.
Powerlessness is a real drain on happiness.
Purpose and financial stability.
Financial instability is a huge stressor and strain on your psyche. I'm not talking about having money for excess luxury, but having enough money to feed yourself, to have roof over your head, and to not get into debt. It's something that's always there, and you can't fully relax.
And for many people, everything gets more expensive while their pay stays the same. Imagine having to work 12 hours a day, doing some absolutely miserable job, only to make the ends meet - and then to see that gap widening.
The ability to let go of things you can't change.
I saw a great piece of advice. Have somewhere deep inside you that nobody else can reach. A core of yourself that is unshakeable. People with this always seem to have a high capacity for happiness.
Fulfilling relationships. Whether it be good friends, or a significant other. Someone you can tell everything to, or someone that you don’t need to tell everything to because they already know what you’re thinking.
When you figure out that the only thing you have control over is yourself and your behavior.
Suddenly you have all this extra free time. Worry stops. Trying to change control/change people stops. Running the world is an exhausting FT job.
I am retired from running the world and I am sooo happy.
Being comfortable with who you are and where you are in life. Like you can strive for more, but don’t let where you are at the moment keep you down.
Self love. Sounds cheesy but you can be rich, successful, handsome and yet if ya hate yourself nothing else will matter.
Always having something to look forward to, no matter how small.
Honesty. Not just being honest with others, but first of all: yourself. don't lie to yourself, don't kid yourself, don't make excuses for yourself. It's the foundation to anything else, really. If you are not honest with yourself, you cannot be in charge of your life, especially if you have some sort of a weakness, such as drinking, overeating, lying, procrastinating, not standing up to yourself, not saying no, etc. Just fucking do it, push through, power through, fake it until it becomes you, not just a behavior. It was really hard, but it really changed my life.
Knowing the different between pleasure and happiness..
Buying a nice car/house/boat that others might admire is pleasurable but will not make you happy.
Having a purpose and connections with other people may not always be pleasurable but will make you happy
Get a job you're **HAPPY** in. This doesn't mean get a job you're good at, or with good future prospects, or a good salary. Whilst all of these could be synonymous with a job you're happy in, a job you are actually **HAPPY** in is so crucial and will improve quality of life so much. Don't spend your life waking up for a job you hate just because it pays bills, it's not worth it.
Everyday going for a hour long walk by yourself is the most important factor for happiness.
I feel that setting clear goals, but not always reach for more is important. You also need great relationships. You need to have hobbies, and you need to feel that you are worth something. You neew to be able to manage stress and to enjoy a lot of the small moments!
Don't sweat the small stuff, just let it go.
Having somebody who cares about you.
That's the exact reason I'll never be happy.
Stop giving a shit. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Healthy and and active relationships, love if you want it in one word.
Being at peace with yourself. You need to fully understand your abilities and what is possible for you to achieve. Your desires must be based on your wants and needs and not on what others have. Being able to be by yourself, without a cellphone, computer, etc, and enjoy it.
To me the most important factor is always being present in the moment and appreciating your existence for what it is - the people in your life, and what you have around you, even if your situation isn't very good objectively speaking.
Some food for thought: [this study on happiness in people who are completely paralyzed](http://bmjopen.bmj.com/content/1/1/e000039
) and can only communicate through blinking.
The study found that many of the people who were unhappy hadn't been in their situation for very long. People who had more time to adjust were more likely to report being happy. A surprising number of them wanted to be resuscitated if their hearts failed.
There are a bunch of reasons for this but I think one of them is that the happy people were able to draw on their inner resources over time and still have a meaningful life despite having extremely limited abilities and experiences.
Multiple things. I guess it could be summed up as: healthy routines/habits.
* High quality diet. Daily, consistent.
* High quality exercise. Most days.
* High quality sleep. Daily, consistent.
* Daily fresh air and sunshine. Daily.
* Make a good budget, and live it. So much stress and unhappiness comes from living outside your means. Stick to your budget.
* Get off social media, or minimize it's use. Disable notifications, or better don't have apps on your phone so you only use it on the PC.
* Regular enjoyable social interaction. I say enjoyable, because there's plenty of people I work with whom I don't like to interact. Have friends where you all enjoy each others company. Usually can be found through some hobby.
* Keeping you and your personal space clean. Daily.
* Find enjoyable competition. You learn to not tie your ego on outcomes, and more on being task oriented. You develop friendships. You're challenged to improve yourself.
* Some sort of regular spiritual/mindfulness practice, generally meditation. 10-20 minutes per day is always better than an hour or two once per week.
There could be plenty more, but those routines/habits are what have worked best for me.